“So many people get judged when they refuse to put their pain away. They get judged for showing it, for speaking it, for insisting on sharing their memories of abuse with those they know. I am not talking about those overwhelming strangers with their stuff—I am talking about legitimate sharings with those they are connected with in daily life. All too often, they are fed one repressive message or another: “Don’t look back,” “What’s done is done,” “Don’t be a victim,” “Your feelings are an illusion,” “Be strong.” What is ironic about this is that those who insist on embodying and expressing their feelings are actually the courageous ones—unwilling and unable to live a false life. Their stuff is breaking through their defenses because they are tired of carrying the weight of buried truths. They want a healthier and more authentic life. Those who seek to shame their revealings are actually less courageous, turning to repressive mantras in an effort to bypass their own unresolved feelings and memories. If they can shut others down, they can remain shut down themselves. But shut down doesn’t take us anywhere good. If we don’t deal with our stuff, it deals with us. May we all speak our truths, before our buried truths destroy us. Out with the old, in with the true…” Jeff Brown
“There is a LIGHT in this world. A healing spirit more powerful than any darkness we may encounter. We sometimes lose sight of this force when there is suffering and too much pain. Then suddenly, the spirit will emerge through the lives of ordinary people who hear a call and answer in extraordinary ways.” Richard Attenborough
“Self expression is a mirror we make to see our souls. If we cannot express ourselves, we lose sight of who we are. Fear stutters our self expression. Fear of failing, fear of being wrong. Fear of not being enough. The thorn of self criticism, sharpened with comparison, lodges in the side of our creativity, and the unique poetry we are stops singing. But there is no wrong way to be you. Practise non-violence towards yourself by letting go of comparison. Cultivate kindness wherever you meet doubts and fears. Acceptance draws the thorn out: acceptance of our unique perfection, of all the threads—the light and dark, mismatched colours and frayed ends—that weave together to make us so. With acceptance comes love, and love kisses the wound closed.” Quiet Lotus
“Instead of a punishing world, let’s turn it into a healing world. For every offense, for every moment of poor judgment, for every instance of human frailty, for every momentary lapse of reason, our first response is always to punish, that’s all we’ve ever known and nothing ever changes, and shit keeps getting worse. What if our desire to punish those who’ve stumbled into a dark pattern of wrong-doing is transformed into a desire to understand, to love…to heal? Would it be a more conscientious and hopeful world? Would there be more people living a life of peaceful and generous coexistence? Would there be more givers, and less takers?” Unknown
“We all carry wounds in us that we received as children, and taking the path of healing these wounds makes it much easier for us to relate to and understand the children in our life. Whatever we haven’t transformed, we’re likely to pass on to our children and to our students. Our suffering will become their suffering. This is why practicing mindfulness in our daily lives is so important. It is not just to avoid burnout; mindfulness allows us to transform in the depths of our consciousness. If you are not at peace, how can you impart peace to your children and students?” Thich Nhat Hanh
“The Buddha was once asked, “What is the wise way of responding to suffering?” He answered by explaining the possible paths of response, some that would lead to complexity and increased suffering, and others that would lead to compassion and the end of suffering. He spoke of the path of despair and powerlessness that only leads to a darkness of heart. “Why is this happening to me? Life is unfair.” He spoke of the path of blame and the agitation and disconnection that follow in the wake of blame. “It is your fault, it is you who made me suffer.” He spoke of the path of guilt, the exaggerated sense of responsibility that claims all suffering as personal failure. “It is my fault, my inadequacy that has brought this sorrow.” He spoke too of the path of investigation, the compassionate exploration of sorrow and struggle; and exploration that is concerned not so much with denying suffering, as with understanding its cause and its end. It is an exploration that acknowledges that not all pain can be eradicated, but that there may be a way of discovering freedom within the painful and the end of suffering. This is the path of compassionate simplicity. Compassion is concerned with bringing to stillness the agitation and fear of our own hearts, bridging the gap of disconnection, separation, and distance. It does not mean that pain will always disappear or that we will discover a solution to every dispute and conflict. We cannot always fix every moment of distress, but we can always be present, awake, and receive each moment with compassion and simplicity. Faced with difficult, painful situations and people in our lives, our minds and hearts become ensnared in frenzied attempts to find a solution or explanation. In the efforts we make to alter, modify, and fix, we begin caught up in a despair that leads to avoidance or suppression. Our compassion, that leads us to reach out, to help, and heal, is hijacked by the desperate desire to make
Compassion is concerned with bringing to stillness the agitation and fear of our own hearts, bridging the gap of disconnection, separation, and distance. It does not mean that pain will always disappear or that we will discover a solution to every dispute and conflict. We cannot always fix every moment of distress, but we can always be present, awake, and receive each moment with compassion and simplicity. Faced with difficult, painful situations and people in our lives, our minds and hearts become ensnared in frenzied attempts to find a solution or explanation. In the efforts we make to alter, modify, and fix, we begin caught up in a despair that leads to avoidance or suppression. Our compassion, that leads us to reach out, to help, and heal, is hijacked by the desperate desire to make
Faced with difficult, painful situations and people in our lives, our minds and hearts become ensnared in frenzied attempts to find a solution or explanation. In the efforts we make to alter, modify, and fix, we begin caught up in a despair that leads to avoidance or suppression. Our compassion, that leads us to reach out, to help, and heal, is hijacked by the desperate desire to make pain disappear. Too often we are left feeling frustrated and powerless. Some years ago, a gunman burst into a school and opened fire on a classroom of children. Amid the devastating grief and bewilderment that followed, a journalist asked the parish priest, “How do you explain what has happened here? You’re a religious leader and many people feel that they are in need of an explanation. How could this happen, how could someone do this?” The priest answered, “To try to explain this event is not the way. This is not the time for trying to understand something of this order.” There is not always an answer or a satisfactory explanation for the pain in the world. Suffering is held most fully in a still, receptive, responsive silence. The words of healing, the responses of courage and wisdom, are born of that simplicity. Compassion is not just an accident, a random moment of openness. The still simplicity of the listening heart is always available to us; learning to let go gently of our demands for answers and solutions, liberates the heart to listen.” Christina Feldman
“There are those who are determined to view you as a phony, fraud, or “a wolf in sheep’s clothing”, no matter how aligned, loving, and heart-centered you happen to be. They will label you as inauthentic when you shine a light that reminds them of their inability to recognize the beauty of their own brightness. They will perceive you as out-of-touch or arrogant, when intimidated by the clarity you emanate that is offered as gifts of transformation for the awakening of all.
Anything you say or do, can and will be interpreted by a small but vocal minority, who are hell-bent on finding the evidence that supports the claims of their limiting beliefs, while lashing out, as a way of begging for the attention they withhold from themselves. Whether they use such criticism of you to resolve lingering turmoil from characters in their past, or deny your innocence based on the light within them that others have shut down, each one is only here to be loved as expressions of divinity – no matter how they think, speak, feel, or behave.
You certainly don’t have to spend time matching wits with someone who only fights in attempt to remain shut down and immune to the fear of potential rejection, but they also don’t have to limit your experience. While their projections, beliefs, judgments, and opinions have nothing to do with your experience of reality, it remains their truthful testimony of how deeply they hurt throughout a healing journey they may not know how to resolve. As this is seen, it is your willingness to embrace your own heart, as a way of sending waves of healing energy throughout the Universe to transform the lives of those who hide in the trenches of despair.
While any accusation reveals how intense of healing journey is underway in the one hurling judgments at you, the celebration of your evolution is dependent upon how you respond. When others hurt your feelings, love yourself more often. When others hurt while lashing out at you – embrace the truth of your innocent nature deeper than ever before. Since your heart is the center of the Universe, through the heart that you love all things are transformed. This is the way of the love revolution. Come as you are. Be as you wish. You deserve more love, not less. I love you.” Matt Kahn
“When you are intimately aware of your own pain you recognise the pain in others, regardless of the mask it wears…anger, pride, fear…..you don’t hold anything against them because you know that underneath they are suffering, just as you have…and do. Let them be. Give them space. Recognise that you can’t change them. You can only allow the space for change to happen. Remain open. Welcome them into your peace over and over again. Give no thought to any words that came out of their mouths that were meant to hurt. That is the pain speaking. If you translate what is said through your heart and not your head, you can clearly see that all anyone asks of you, ever, is love.” Unknown
“They tell us to wear masks, repress and hide our true feelings, teach us to adapt our personalities to the marketplace, and then they expect healthy functioning. Is that even possible from below a mask? Can it be any surprise that humans are depressed and act out in hurtful ways when they have been conditioned to distort their truths, bury their feelings, grin and bear it? If we want humans to act empathically, we have to model it to them as a society. If we want humans to stop hurting others, we have to support healthy emotional release so that they do not accumulate toxic feelings. If we want humans to move from their most heartfelt authenticity, we have to stop shaming and shunning their genuine expression. If we want humans to move from love, we must love them first. We can’t teach repression and disguise on a society wide level, and then expect loving, compassionate behavior. It’s entirely ridiculous.” Jeff Brown